“You’re so skinny. I hate you.” People actually say this to a thin person I know – and they like her. Where ever does this come from? What’s happened to all of us when saying something like that is semi-OK? When did “skinny” and attractive become the same thing?
Most of us don’t wish to be overweight, but why is “skinny” the only alternative we’re fed 24/7? Why isn’t “healthy” the ultimate one-word compliment? When you are healthy your skin glows and your real hair shines. There is a bounce in your step and and you’re almost certainly at the weight that makes YOU happy. Have you ever seen a commercial where a man and woman pass on the street. His head snaps back. The camera zooms in to his face. You see admiration and desire as he whispers, “Healthy …”.
Instead those clever, highly paid marketers have turned “healthy” into a snide way of calling someone “large” and not getting caught. They don’t use “healthy” and desirable together because if healthy becomes what we aspire to be, we’ll start questioning the need for many of the products for which we now hand over our money. If “healthy” becomes our coveted state-of-being, we’ll naturally pull back from reaching for the oversized Doritos bags. Instead we’ll seek out less-profitable fresh produce. Since we’ll never get fat, we’ll never need to buy so-called slimming products. We will stop feeding the $20 billion weight loss industry. ($20 billion in the US alone.) We will be the weight that makes us happy instead of grasping for the made-up nirvana of “skinny”.
“Skinny”, means “scrawny, bony, angular, rawboned, hollow-cheeked, gaunt, as thin as a rake, skin-and-bones, sticklike, emaciated, waiflike, skeletal, pinched, undernourished, underfed”. [google] Models are all of that.
Try an image search on Google. You don’t exist. Neither does anyone you know. The fine people you work with, shop with, play sports with – you won’t find them anywhere in the media. Not on TV, not on billboards, magazines nor the internet.
You’ll see hungry-looking models. Skinny models – make-upped, hair-dressed, botoxed and expensively clothed, doing expensive activities. They’re posed and lit just so before star photographers shoot them and editors pick the best angle from the scores taken. And even though the models are under 25, the fine lines on their face are erased, and their bodies are made even tinier with Photoshop. Ironically the beautiful human below was made to starve to the point where her ribs popped out and her breasts disappeared. They had to bring in the photoshop whiz to add weight to her frail body. Why couldn’t they just have let the poor girl eat?You won’t encounter attractive, healthy people. You. Me. Us. We are invisible to our own selves for most of the minutes of our days. When we do manage to sneak through into the media, no one pretties us up.
Skinny gets glamorized and healthy is erased. The only attractive media models we encounter don’t exist in real life, so we go crazy trying to become a mythological creature. The weight that makes YOU happy is a healthy weight, and and it varies from person to person. Skinny is arbitrary. Your happiness and health aren’t considered.
“Skinny” is not a naturally occurring state and the die is cast for skinny-idolizers to become life-long customers of the weight-loss industry. Jenny Craig costs up to $675 per month in the U.S., and it’s even more in Canada. Weight Watchers U.S. is $43 per month [Source: Best Diet Tips.]
YOU next year principle
Your health is precious. You are precious. Look after your health and the weight that makes you happy will follow.
“A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative in women’s history; a quietly mad population is a tractable one.”
Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women